tired of bein ragged on by all the guys!

wakeBIGorgohome · Newbie Joined: 03 Jul 2003 Posts: 12 City: S.C.

ok im kinda upset... i always get ragged on by the guys in my town! im pretty much the only girl that wakeboards and i take it REAL seriously, and our town's really small.. im only in high school, and my rents said that i need to be sponsered by the time i graduate. But thats off topic, so here's the deal on friday's, saturday's, and sunday's the guys n me all go out on our boats and wakeboard... i've been wakeboarding for a long time now and im just as good if not better than a lot of the guys i board with! well they always seem to tell me to get off the water... and they always crash in on me if im boarding.. it's really startin to make me mad.. i dunno does anyone else get ragged on by guys that think girls cant board?

Kinky · Outlaw Joined: 13 Jan 2003 Posts: 218 City: Niagara Falls

WHAT?... That is just wrong!!!!!

I am the only chica out there in my area too and they all egg me on.

Actually my boyfriend and I went out together off the same boat so he could teach me while I was riding..(I'm just starting out), They all want me to be as good as them, actually they wouldn't even mind if I was better than them!!!

Dees · Posted: Jul 03, 2003 9:15 am Post subject:

kick them in the nuts when there not looking. That just rude, you need to find some new people to ride with.

NAW · Posted: Jul 03, 2003 9:43 am Post subject:

Tiffanator · Posted: Jul 03, 2003 10:05 am Post subject:

I used to ride with a group of guys all the time. They weren't as bad as the ones you speak of, but I could tell that they felt like it was a waste of their time when I was riding. They eventually got to the point where they wouldn't call me to go out boarding, wouldn't answer the phone if I called, and made friends with everyone I boarded with, then took them out with them and didn't call me. It felt like they were trying to make me not able to wakeboard, and that was the most frustrating thing. I wanted to move away. It eventually got to the point where I could be having a great day on the water, they would show up, and my day just went down from there.
So what did I do? I hung in there, wakeboarding for a year with my parents and mom's tennis friends. I was the only one that rode, they would just watch. Just this year I have started finding a great group of people to board with, and I'm excited about wakeboarding again.
And those guys, they all moved away, but I still see them sometimes at contests, but I try to ignore them and not let them ruin my day. I learned a lot from my time wakeboarding with them, and now I try to pay attention to everyone I wakeboard with so that no one feels left out.
Just hand in there, search the message boards looking for other people to ride with, your love of the sport will win.
If you ever find yourself lost in the woods of south Mississippi, look me up, you are more than welcome to ride anytime.
Later

wakeBIGorgohome · Newbie Joined: 03 Jul 2003 Posts: 12 City: S.C.

i wakeboard for myself.. but i have all this pressure from my parents... i would find new ppl to wakeboard with but there arent any... our town is so small like probably a lil over a 1000 people.. idunno its really hard but i love wakeboarding and some of the guys are cool but a lot of them arent just cause im better than them and they hate that idea

Boardbrat · Posted: Jul 03, 2003 11:44 am Post subject:

I started riding in 96 and i was pretty old when I first tried it. so being 35 yeras old now i have to admit, i still suck...........but the coolest thing is, that none of the guys rag on me at all. they still cheer as loud as they can when i just go wake to wake. I will never thro a raley or a ront roll but I NEVER EVER get ragged on. I love the guys I ride with.

arthropod88 · Outlaw Joined: 21 May 2003 Posts: 210 City: Birmingham

Hey WakeBIGorgohome,

I do not even know if I should be on this Forum or not, but I was looking around and saw your post...

That is a shame that they do not respect you for riding.

I think you need to keep riding and try not to pay those pricks any attention. They are obviously threatened by you for some reason or another. They may be jealous that you are getting better than them or that you already are better than them. Do whatever you can to not board when they do...just keep getting better and show them up! Very Happy

Hell, if they are harassing you on the water ...you could always get the water patrol involved. Just tell the patrol (anonymously...so you do not look like a RAT) that certain people harrass you on the water...and see if he can stand by and observe them bothering you and possibly being unsafe boaters....a nice stiff fine may keep them off your tail!

It is supposed to be a fun sport, but damn that is not kewl...

You would be welcome on my boat anytime!

Try to have a good 4th...

wakeBIGorgohome · Newbie Joined: 03 Jul 2003 Posts: 12 City: S.C.

thanks man... you too.. yea i duno their supposed to be my "friends" and they are off the water and most of them wana go out with me but when we get on the water its like all that goes away.. its SO dumb

arthropod88 · Outlaw Joined: 21 May 2003 Posts: 210 City: Birmingham

it is time to find new friends...I would not gve those guys the time of day. You can def. do better than that.

You just go out there and ride...keep it up and surpass them Twisted Evil

arthropod88 · Outlaw Joined: 21 May 2003 Posts: 210 City: Birmingham

forgot to add...you need to hang with people that respect you for you and not when you are out of the water only...

wakeBIGorgohome · Newbie Joined: 03 Jul 2003 Posts: 12 City: S.C.

yea that is true.. but see our town is so small theres not really anyone else TO hang out with haha thats how small it is.. so thats the problem

Lucy · Outlaw Joined: 01 Jul 2003 Posts: 209

Hang in there! It may be a small town, but at some point you're bound to meet some people that will be supportive & encouraging about your time on the water. I've been lucky in my life - all of the men, including my husband & father, have always been incredibly supportive about this stuff. It's easy for people (including myself) to say "go find someone else to ride with". I've lived in enough small towns to know that it's not always that simple, but still, hang in there. Boarding should make it all worth it.

Tiffanator · Posted: Jul 03, 2003 4:32 pm Post subject:

I know how you feel. When I was dealing with those guys I just felt like there was no one else out wakeboarding. Everyone was skiing or tubing on our lake. One day I saw some guys out riding behind a jet ski, I went over and asked if they wanted to ride in the boat, and that was my crew for the summer. That's sorta how I got a crew up, just went out and rode, people would kinda watch, then I'd go over and ask if they wanted to ride, usually they were stoked to get to ride behind a real inboard boat and not a bass boat or jet ski. I also met some awesome people through the internet. I would invite them to come ride and made friends that way. Mom said one day I was going to invite an axe murderer to the house.
If your friends aren't supporting you then drop them like hot rocks...wakeboarding is supposed to be fun.
The invitation is always open to come to my "Killa G'Rilla" wakeboarding getaway.
Later

JRock*Girl · Wakeboarder.Commie Joined: 12 Jan 2003 Posts: 1340

I live in a very small town too, just about the size of yours. Luckily the guys I ride w/ have a lot of respect for me as a girl rider. They don't rag on me because I know way more about wakeboarding than all of them and I taught most of them how to do backrolls. I am also the one w/ the boat. My boat's down now though and its awsome because there all inviting me out on whatever they can find. There are a few people around here that do rag on me because of my obsession but I steer clear from them because they don't make it any funner. Even if you have to drive 30 mins to ride w/ a different crew, it will be worth it. Mabye you should hang out by a local shop and see who else stops in and see if they want to ride.

dw · Posted: Jul 03, 2003 6:15 pm Post subject:

yo if one guy is being a standout and really getting your angry, just be like "easy there mr. tiny" in front of all his friends, there is no ego shatter worse then when a girl rags on a guys wang in front of his friends, i'll be damned if he opens his mouth again + all his friends will be so busy exploiting the opeanin you left on him they will leave you alone
Twisted Evil

silver girl · Soul Rider Joined: 16 Jan 2003 Posts: 496 City: England

i feel for u man
just cause u can rip n they cant

Kinky · Outlaw Joined: 13 Jan 2003 Posts: 218 City: Niagara Falls

dw, Thanks for that one, I know I will be using that one next time a guy pisses me off!!! Wink

MattyBoyR6 · Outlaw Joined: 09 May 2003 Posts: 239 City: Mesa

Anyone ever see Jonny Sunami? (sp?) You have to challenge them to a contest then show em up in front of the rest of the town.

Seriously start baggin on his/their game and ask why they "are afraid of a little girl?" Or just tell em straight up to stop being dicks and that girls talk and you can keep them from ever seeing another naked boob in that town.

Premier135Chick · Guest

That totally sucks. I am lucky enough that the guys I do ride with are very encouraging. Usually, they are stoked to even have a chick on the boat. One of the guys said that having a chick on the boat is cool and seeing her ride is like seeing a unicorn. I thought that was kind of flattering.

I think those guys who you used to ride with and give you a hard time are just intimadated because you can probably ride better then them. Be glad that they don't invite you out. Why would you want to hang out with people who will talk shizzle about you and not be supportive? Who knows, someday when they see your picture in Wakeboarding magazine or your section in a video, you WILL have the last laugh!!

johnny · Outlaw Joined: 20 May 2003 Posts: 109 City: Myrtle Beach

wakeBIGorgohome,

I think chicks that board are awesome. Where are you at in SC?? You are always welcome to ride with my crew!

Nick · Posted: Jul 06, 2003 10:01 am Post subject:

That sucks, I love it when a chick can go huge and throw down better than guys. It makes me feel proud I'm pulling her behind my boat!

RunningWithScissors · Posted: Jul 12, 2003 6:20 pm Post subject:

I say show them that you are better and maybe kick them in the nuts a couple of times to show that you mean it! Girl Power.... Smile

mitchell007 · Criminal Joined: 13 Jan 2003 Posts: 87

I get so pumped when girls ride! Even if they just learned...I can't stand girls that are too worried about "breaking a nail".

Bordbrat: I'll be in LA for the X-games 11-17th. , heading down to San Diego early in the week, I'd buy your gas if you could give me and my g/f a pull. I would gladly return the favor if you get to Orlando. I'm on a private lake and have SAN. I really am not that good, but I have great time....... my e-mail is shagit007@aol.com. Thanks, Mike

scott a · Ladies Man Joined: 13 Jan 2003 Posts: 9810

ok im thinking maybe a kick in the nuts may be a bit severe.

dw, are you speaking from experience?

WakeboardgirlCWB · Newbie Joined: 23 Jul 2003 Posts: 18 City: Lee's Summit,

ive never actually gone with a girl and rode..ive taught girls...but thats all.. i ride with my brother my cousin and all his friends..and they treat me like one of the guys... they always want me to ride.. what kinda guy are you riding with sounds like they suck. tell em to eat a dick.

wakejunkeygirl · Posted: Aug 07, 2003 7:18 pm Post subject:

I feel sorry for ya, cuz the guys I ride with totally push me to that next level...and the girl I ride with does too..those guys sound like they are imature. WIthout the constant, "get back in those bindings...you're not done yet..." from the guys I woulda never cleared the wake with big air after only 2 months of riding..wish u lived closer to us, I am always looking for other girls who actually 'rip', not just 'ride'....being pullled behind the boat going inside and outside the wake is NOT wakeboarding...not in my book...thats just getting a pull, might as well put some ski's on!!! and those are the only kinda girls i have ran into...and that SUX!

waKEBoaRding GuRly · Newbie Joined: 12 Jun 2003 Posts: 1 City: Jacksonville, FL

Boys are stupid throw rocks at them.
I am turning 30 years old next month and before June of this year I never even jumped in the river that I have lived next to for my whole life. I bought a Essence 131 in June and started ridin'. The guys I ride with all think its cool that someone as old as me and expecially a girl rides. Ignore the guys that make comments to you. Boys are stupid anyways.

leslisa · Posted: Aug 28, 2003 7:08 am Post subject:

So the guys like you, so they all have to be jerks. That's not always the case, but sometimes it is. I'm older, and came from a different generation, but also from a small town. Is it your boat? Are they jeopardizing you? If they are, I would definately get someone of authority involved (anonymous, I would agree). You could really get hurt with guys acting like asses.

Also, if you can drive to a neighboring town, lake, then I would. I always dated guys from other towns/schools. I never dated ones from where I lived.

Laurie0101 · Newbie Joined: 20 Feb 2003 Posts: 7 City: Chicago

I've ridden with a few different crews - all guys except me, and they've all been very nice and encouraging. The attitude it "girls who ride are cool", and my guy friends really push me to try harder. Still, I wish I had more girls to ride with.

seaotter · Newbie Joined: 19 Sep 2003 Posts: 4 City: Switzerland

wakeBIGorgohome,

do not give up! I started boarding at the age of 33 only and believe it or not all guys treat me very respectful all the time...they even freak out when I manage a trick well - so maybe age helps.
so just go ahead....guess the guys you are dealing with are just a bit "green behind the ears" (as we say in EU) that is all ! Cheers

Very Happy

nautique_hottie · Newbie Joined: 15 Jan 2003 Posts: 21

i rode with all guys till just about a yr. ago when tsr was built ( in new braunfels ) and when i rode with all guys i got ragged on all the time " why is she riding .. she's waisting perfectly fine water .. BLA BLA - dont worry about the guys - most of them are jerks because they dont know how to be anything else and just dont listen and feel sorryb'c they have to be like that . dont let anyone bring you down . ooh yea and ride hard .

kennethl · Addict Joined: 08 Aug 2003 Posts: 635 City: Champaign

wakeBIGorgohome, On behalf of my gender, I'd like to apologise, but in defense these are boys your describing, not men so I hope you dont negativly stereotype us all in the same lot with these dumb@sses. Some of the advice I've read here rings true. I think these boys are totally intimidated by you beating them in what is generally considered a male dominated sport. I also suspect that they are inherently very insecure with themselfs stemming from a lack of er.. shall we say natural endowment. dw had an excellent suggestion, also, ask them if they're natural or is the water just too cold? After that I'd tell my daughter to follow scott a's advice and kick one of them in the pills. It'll get their attention that your serious and mean business.

First chance you get try to find a new set of riders that push you to your limits, not ones that hold you back. If your ever in Illinois your welcome to ride with me, my wife and my daughter. I think you could even give us some lessons.

good luck
K

wesgardner · Posted: Oct 31, 2003 7:04 pm Post subject:

Hey wakeBIGorgohome,

I SOOOO support what kennethl suggests and please try not to group us all in an unfavorable light. I support my daughters and their friends both male and female in this sport - we all are just having a blast, so if the guys get you down, come ride with us in Annapolis...

My daughters are just 11 and 14 but are really getting awesome! each time we go out they improve a whole lot more than I...

Girls rock, keep ridin'

Wes

Premier135Chick · Guest

I think you need to hang out with new friends, friends that will support you and not try to make you feel bad.

I ride with mostly guys. It is so rare if I get to ride with another chick. All my boys give me mad props. They push me to try new tricks and go bigger, harder. They are all very invaluable to my riding....