Reasons to not put out

x vegan x · Addict Joined: 19 Jan 2004 Posts: 857 City: Minneapolis

I haven't been around here much lately but yesterday a friend brought something up and I knew this was the place to find my answers.

Her husband has been pestering her a lot lately and she just hasn't been in the mood (long story which I won't get into right now). So she sent me the following text, "...give me a list of reasons not to put out." Since I'm sure every excuse under the sun has been used on or by someone here, lets hear them.

Dpierce37 · Ladies Man Joined: 23 Apr 2003 Posts: 7659 City: Austin

He has a small tool...and the pool boy works just fine.

joebananas · Posted: Mar 26, 2009 7:52 am Post subject:

she is looking for a reason not to put out? sounds like a great marriage, I bet those two crazy kids have what it takes to make it.

Hollywood · Posted: Mar 26, 2009 7:55 am Post subject:

herpes outbreak

Sinkoumn · Posted: Mar 26, 2009 7:57 am Post subject:

Simply put, "unusual vaginal discharge"... hmm, too much? Puppy Eyes

edrex · Posted: Mar 26, 2009 8:05 am Post subject:

"I got raped last week and now the thought of having sex again scares me." Too much?

Hollywood · Posted: Mar 26, 2009 8:06 am Post subject:

I've been fantasizing about your brother and am afraid I'll yell out his name.

Neognosis · Ladies Man Joined: 13 Jan 2003 Posts: 17617 City: Webster

She wants him to have an affair. She wants to ruin her marriage by making up stories and reasons to not have sex. Those two seem pretty accurate "reasons" judging by what tiny bit of info we have.

x vegan x · Addict Joined: 19 Jan 2004 Posts: 857 City: Minneapolis

cameraboy, not possible...open relationship.

When are some females going to make an appearance and offer realistic responses?

DCdave56 · Posted: Mar 26, 2009 8:29 am Post subject:

Further proof of how completely phukked up women are...

Neognosis · Ladies Man Joined: 13 Jan 2003 Posts: 17617 City: Webster

x vegan x · Addict Joined: 19 Jan 2004 Posts: 857 City: Minneapolis

cameraboy, She did that for a while. But she felt weird brushing him off every time. She was just unnerved because while they've had an open relationship for a quite a while, she never excercised her freedom until recently and was worried about how things would go being with him after being with someone else. Anyway, I just got a text that makes this thread moot.

J_DOGG · Posted: Mar 26, 2009 8:41 am Post subject:

He should start bangn' her best friend

She will be on his jock 24/7 after that.....or be gone...either way problem solved.

I hit the marriage drought at around the 3 year mark - started wakeboarding with 2 -24 year old hot chicks I met at the gas station one day while filling up the boat.

Wife was all over me that entire summer... think I'm going to try that again.LOL...

Okie Boarder · Ladies Man Joined: 03 Mar 2008 Posts: 10056 City: Edmond

Here's a question...

She's in an open relationship and she doesn't want to have sex...not in the mood, right? Is she having sex with anyone else or is she abstaining completely?

I agree with some of the comments so far...just be honest and say "Not in the mood". It won't be the easy way to handle it, but it will be the most truthful. All the excuses will do is buy time and could build resentment or damage trust.

Commodore · Ladies Man Joined: 20 Jun 2005 Posts: 11636

I'll let you do me, if you let me put on this 18 inch black strap on, and do you.

That should stop it pretty quick. If he agrees. Well, you have a bigger problem on your hands.

x vegan x · Addict Joined: 19 Jan 2004 Posts: 857 City: Minneapolis

J_DOGG, She suspects that was part of his motivation for wanting the open relationship, but it didn't work.

Okie Boarder, from the sounds of it she's never been that into the sexual side of their relationship. She gets other things out of the relationship, that just hasn't been a big one for her. She is sleeping with someone else now, but for years before that she was fine with their very infrequent relations alone.

Sinkoumn · Posted: Mar 26, 2009 8:54 am Post subject:

My head just exploded, why the hell would anyone want to get that much BS packed into a 'relationship'. Are there a lot of emo kids involved in this?

Neognosis · Ladies Man Joined: 13 Jan 2003 Posts: 17617 City: Webster

ugh. that's horrible. Poor guy. He needs to kick her to the curb and get with someone on the same wavelenth.

Sinkoumn · Posted: Mar 26, 2009 8:59 am Post subject:

^F#$*ing right, good lawd what a headache...

DCdave56 · Posted: Mar 26, 2009 8:59 am Post subject:

see my post above ^^^^^^

skurfer · Criminal Joined: 30 Oct 2008 Posts: 57 City: T-dot

She is plain lame...not being in the mood in an "open relationship" means....I'm not in the mood to do it with you, because I'm doing it with someone else, and I'm satisfied with that. This relationship should end immediately, "open relationships" should be left for non-marital types, or marital types who like to swing and have no hang-ups about it. Hopefully they don't have kids...

Sinkoumn · Posted: Mar 26, 2009 9:05 am Post subject:

"Me, me, me..And more me now"

From the sounds of it she is basically turning the entire situation around to focus on her and how everything is going to make her life more difficult (Narcissism anyone?).

Dude needs to find a new chick...

Okie Boarder · Ladies Man Joined: 03 Mar 2008 Posts: 10056 City: Edmond

Man, what a mess. If she's sleeping with someone else, yet she's not in the mood for him, then the someone else is obviously satisfying her enough that she doesn't want it with her hubby. She just needs to be honest and then he needs to decide how he is going to deal with it.

ontrider · Ladies Man Joined: 30 Jul 2003 Posts: 16491 City: Russia

i am gay

chavez · RIP MHL 04/25/1958 - 01/11/2006

Sinkoumn · Posted: Mar 26, 2009 9:12 am Post subject:

x vegan x · Addict Joined: 19 Jan 2004 Posts: 857 City: Minneapolis

Because I've left a lot of details out you all have a very skewed and innaccurate idea of what is going on. The open relationship was his idea. She never planned on seeing anyone else, even though he has been. I don't think either of them are wronging the other. It's just messy at the moment because she's trying to come to terms with her end of the open relationship. She was fine with him seeing someone else but is having a hard time putting herself in that situation.

Lop · Posted: Mar 26, 2009 9:13 am Post subject:

If they are in a relationship she should be putting out. It is part of the deal. Nothing worse than being in a relationship where the sex comes to a halt..

ontrider · Ladies Man Joined: 30 Jul 2003 Posts: 16491 City: Russia

nmballa · Posted: Mar 26, 2009 9:24 am Post subject:

Well if you read my chick thread I'm the last one to give advice to anyone but here goes.... I would say since they are in an open relationship there is only one way to solve this issue. MASSIVE ORGY TIME... Who's on the train? WOOT WOOT... So yeah, I can't really help you on this one.

Hollywood · Posted: Mar 26, 2009 9:33 am Post subject:

chavez · RIP MHL 04/25/1958 - 01/11/2006

ontrider, you just know it's going to be someone's sig before the day is up. Laughing

eeven73 · Posted: Mar 26, 2009 9:55 am Post subject:

this thread just made my head explode.

why would someone in an open relationship expect an excuse from their spouse about why she doesn't want to have sex with him?

Because she is getting it elsewhere Idea

maybe i am confused, but this seems ridiculous.

eeven73 · Posted: Mar 26, 2009 9:57 am Post subject:

P.S.

Can i get this skanks number?

Faust · Wakeboarder.Commie Joined: 20 May 2005 Posts: 1496

There are a lot of heads exploding, but this is really pretty simple.

They both fundamentally screwed up.

When you are in a relationship, you shouldn't, can't, and don't see other people. Anything else, and it isn't a relationship. You can call it whatever you want, an open relationship, friends with benefits, marriage, whatever, it's not going to work.