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Porterwake Wakeboarder.Commie
Joined: 28 Feb 2003 Posts: 2078 City: Wisconsin
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Posted: Oct 15, 2014 4:53 pm Post subject: Am I Overreacting? |
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So this girl and I had a short, intense relationship about 2 months ago (July) and we broke up. She knew where I lived downtown. I had already lived here for a short while during our relationship.
I just walked into my apartment complex today and saw her walking out. We met eyes. She has moved INTO my apartment complex, which is very small. I asked what is she doing here, she said "I live here now." She said it has nothing to do with me, she just liked the place. I can't even wrap my head around this.
Thoughts? I am completely creeped out. I have moved to Milwaukee from up north to get a fresh start in life, drama free after a year of difficulty up north with my old job and my divorce. I'm genuinely edged. Stuck in a lease too. |
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E.J. Ladies Man
Joined: 15 Jan 2003 Posts: 7597 City: Mogadishu
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Posted: Oct 15, 2014 5:08 pm Post subject: |
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Early returns, yes.... Hell, it was 2 months...
No word on how it ended(bed/good), thoughts on her before ect... So meh...
If you find your rabbit boiling in a pot in your place, all bets off. |
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jryoung Ladies Man
Joined: 19 Mar 2004 Posts: 7664 City: Man Jose
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Posted: Oct 15, 2014 6:01 pm Post subject: |
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You're going to get booty calls or dead animals on your doorstep...bishes be crazy. _________________
Quote: | You don't meet many old vegans. It's mostly young priviliged kids trying to figure out where they stand in the world. | - Steve Rinella |
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Okie Boarder Ladies Man
Joined: 03 Mar 2008 Posts: 10056 City: Edmond
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Posted: Oct 16, 2014 3:01 am Post subject: |
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I think you have reason to be a bit concerned, but don't jump to conclusions. See how it plays out from here and watch for additional signs of issues. _________________ If love is blind, why is lingerie so popular? |
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goofyboy Wakeboarder.com Freak
Joined: 19 Jul 2004 Posts: 4463 City: Houston
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Posted: Oct 16, 2014 3:26 am Post subject: |
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Stalk her first. Let her think you are crazy and she will avoid you.
Or turn her into a very convienent booty call. _________________ Work SUX! |
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fish6942 Addict
Joined: 22 Feb 2006 Posts: 603
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Posted: Oct 16, 2014 3:44 am Post subject: |
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Hard to give advice without seeing pictures of her. |
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STPHNSN23 Guest
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Posted: Oct 16, 2014 4:08 am Post subject: |
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fish6942 wrote: | Hard to give advice without seeing pictures of her. |
this. |
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ohsix PityDaFool Who Posts This Much
Joined: 12 Jan 2003 Posts: 6837
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Posted: Oct 16, 2014 5:35 am Post subject: |
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Porterwake, are you scared of her? Did she exhibit any alarming behavior after things ended? Did she move from another city to this apartment or within the same city?
If it was a normal ending of a relationship and all has been cool, I wouldn't worry about it. It's a little odd that she would move into the same apartments, but maybe she was impressed with your apartment and thought it wouldn't be a big deal if she moved there.
I think we need more details on how the relationship ended and probably pictures to give you an accurate response. |
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htownbdr Wakeboarder.Commie
Joined: 14 Jan 2003 Posts: 1460 City: Austin
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Posted: Oct 16, 2014 5:54 am Post subject: |
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.....nevermind, pic was too big. |
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eeven73 PityDaFool Who Posts This Much
Joined: 16 Jan 2003 Posts: 5377 City: Halfway
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Posted: Oct 16, 2014 7:03 am Post subject: |
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Quote: | intense relationship about 2 months ago |
elaborate.
plus pic.
For accurate response. _________________ Is President Obama a Keynesian? |
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goofyboy Wakeboarder.com Freak
Joined: 19 Jul 2004 Posts: 4463 City: Houston
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Posted: Oct 16, 2014 7:15 am Post subject: |
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also, how was she in bed? If she was out of this world, she's probably crazy and you should lock doors and carry a bat around. But, we need a pic to see if she has the crazy eyes. _________________ Work SUX! |
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eeven73 PityDaFool Who Posts This Much
Joined: 16 Jan 2003 Posts: 5377 City: Halfway
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Posted: Oct 16, 2014 7:29 am Post subject: |
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Intense as in
1.) You had sex in the mens room of the bar on 5th street.
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2.) you would wake up in the middle of the night with her staring at you while quietly sobbing. _________________ Is President Obama a Keynesian? |
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ontrider Ladies Man
Joined: 30 Jul 2003 Posts: 16491 City: Russia
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Posted: Oct 16, 2014 9:23 am Post subject: |
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This sounds like a case for Judge Judy... |
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Swass Soul Rider
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Posted: Oct 16, 2014 12:04 pm Post subject: |
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eeven73 wrote: | Intense as in
1.) You had sex in the mens room of the bar on 5th street.
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2.) you would wake up in the middle of the night with her staring at you while quietly sobbing. |
Well that was awesome. lol |
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nmballa Wakeboarder.com Freak
Joined: 14 Jan 2003 Posts: 3906 City: Milwaukee
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Posted: Oct 19, 2014 4:00 pm Post subject: |
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Booty call for sure.
Dude, I didn't know you lived in MKE. I have been here for like 8 years. _________________ jt09 wrote:
I used to get all happy when the girlie would make a colonic appointment. That meant she was going to be breaking out the "fine china" soon.
http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=509037985&ref=profile |
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Bambamski Wakeboarder.com Freak
Joined: 03 Apr 2003 Posts: 4405 City: Calgary
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Posted: Oct 20, 2014 9:56 am Post subject: |
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Am I the only one thinking you might be the drama queen here? _________________ Don't do anything rash.....and don't do anything to get a rash... |
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Bowen Wakeboarder.com Freak
Joined: 12 Apr 2004 Posts: 3708 City: Dallas...I miss SoCal
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Posted: Oct 20, 2014 2:46 pm Post subject: |
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eeven73 wrote: | Intense as in
1.) You had sex in the mens room of the bar on 5th street.
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2.) you would wake up in the middle of the night with her staring at you while quietly sobbing. |
STAR |
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jt09 Ladies Man
Joined: 16 Jan 2003 Posts: 22083 City: Austin
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Posted: Oct 20, 2014 4:22 pm Post subject: |
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Bambamski wrote: | Am I the only one thinking you might be the drama queen here? |
600,000 people in 100sq mi and she moves into the same small apartment complex? yeah, complete coincidence. i'm sure it's a totally kick-ass complex. months long waiting list. everyone wants to live there.
porter - hope it's eeven73's option #1, because that means you'll probably get to hit it again, hopefully w/ minimal drama. #2 could be uncomfortable. |
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jryoung Ladies Man
Joined: 19 Mar 2004 Posts: 7664 City: Man Jose
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Posted: Oct 20, 2014 5:30 pm Post subject: |
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Well, without an update at this point Porter either had hot freaky booty call sex or was shanked with an ice pick.
I'm guessing it was both. _________________
Quote: | You don't meet many old vegans. It's mostly young priviliged kids trying to figure out where they stand in the world. | - Steve Rinella |
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Porterwake Wakeboarder.Commie
Joined: 28 Feb 2003 Posts: 2078 City: Wisconsin
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Posted: Oct 23, 2014 6:21 am Post subject: |
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No, actually I told the individual to leave me alone and stay away from me back in late July. After I broke up with her, endless calls and texts.
The company that owns the building allowed me to move into a different building they own with no penalty so I moved to avoid a TRO. |
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Porterwake Wakeboarder.Commie
Joined: 28 Feb 2003 Posts: 2078 City: Wisconsin
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Posted: Oct 23, 2014 6:23 am Post subject: |
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Bambamski wrote: | Am I the only one thinking you might be the drama queen here? |
Bambamski, of course. Drama queen when you tell someone to stay away from you and happen to move into the same small apartment complex as you in one of the major metropolitan areas in America. I am totally a drama queen for feeling freaked out and stalked. |
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Porterwake Wakeboarder.Commie
Joined: 28 Feb 2003 Posts: 2078 City: Wisconsin
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Posted: Oct 23, 2014 6:26 am Post subject: |
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ohsix wrote: | Porterwake, are you scared of her? Did she exhibit any alarming behavior after things ended? Did she move from another city to this apartment or within the same city?
If it was a normal ending of a relationship and all has been cool, I wouldn't worry about it. It's a little odd that she would move into the same apartments, but maybe she was impressed with your apartment and thought it wouldn't be a big deal if she moved there.
I think we need more details on how the relationship ended and probably pictures to give you an accurate response. |
The ending of the relationship was not good. She got fired from her job deliberately and moved back in with her mom in Green Bay. That is not the kind of woman I want so I broke up with her. She got needy and crazy and I told her to just move on and stop contacting me.
3 months later she shows up living in my apartment complex, where she knew I lived. |
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Porterwake Wakeboarder.Commie
Joined: 28 Feb 2003 Posts: 2078 City: Wisconsin
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Posted: Oct 23, 2014 6:28 am Post subject: |
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nmballa wrote: | Booty call for sure.
Dude, I didn't know you lived in MKE. I have been here for like 8 years. |
Just moved here from up north in June to be a lab manager. I store my boat in River West and like taking it out booze cruising downtown! I just winterized it last week so we'd have to wait to roll out again. |
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eeven73 PityDaFool Who Posts This Much
Joined: 16 Jan 2003 Posts: 5377 City: Halfway
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Posted: Oct 23, 2014 6:50 am Post subject: |
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So more #2 than #1 _________________ Is President Obama a Keynesian? |
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ohsix PityDaFool Who Posts This Much
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Posted: Oct 23, 2014 7:17 am Post subject: |
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Porterwake wrote: | ohsix wrote: | Porterwake, are you scared of her? Did she exhibit any alarming behavior after things ended? Did she move from another city to this apartment or within the same city?
If it was a normal ending of a relationship and all has been cool, I wouldn't worry about it. It's a little odd that she would move into the same apartments, but maybe she was impressed with your apartment and thought it wouldn't be a big deal if she moved there.
I think we need more details on how the relationship ended and probably pictures to give you an accurate response. |
The ending of the relationship was not good. She got fired from her job deliberately and moved back in with her mom in Green Bay. That is not the kind of woman I want so I broke up with her. She got needy and crazy and I told her to just move on and stop contacting me.
3 months later she shows up living in my apartment complex, where she knew I lived. |
Well, that's pretty creepy of her. I bet that was quite the stomach turning adrenaline rush when you saw her in your building the first time. |
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STPHNSN23 Guest
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Posted: Oct 23, 2014 7:40 am Post subject: |
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i'm glad porter posted again. i was beginning to wonder. crazy ex-gfs ftl. |
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Faust Wakeboarder.Commie
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Posted: Oct 23, 2014 9:13 am Post subject: |
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What were the circumstances of the deliberate firing? Out of curiosity |
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E.J. Ladies Man
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Posted: Oct 23, 2014 10:52 am Post subject: |
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My thoughts #2, your recent explanation gives a totally different feel, as opposed to your first. "We broke up" does not = "I broke up with her, she got needy/crazy, I told her to move on, stay away from me, stop contacting me ect."
With that knowledge, did you even need counsel as to if you were overreacting to her seeking out & moving into your apartment complex? |
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Aubs Motorboat Queen
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Posted: Oct 23, 2014 2:48 pm Post subject: |
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Good thing you moved! Not even worth the booty call now! Avoid at all costs! |
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Porterwake Wakeboarder.Commie
Joined: 28 Feb 2003 Posts: 2078 City: Wisconsin
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Posted: Oct 24, 2014 5:57 am Post subject: |
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Well I was pretty mad last week. I moved thankfully.
She didn't like what her boss said, so she did something insubordinate to get fired. She is 30 years old, don't act like that. Not really what I want in a woman. |
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Porterwake Wakeboarder.Commie
Joined: 28 Feb 2003 Posts: 2078 City: Wisconsin
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Posted: Oct 24, 2014 6:00 am Post subject: |
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ohsix wrote: | Porterwake wrote: | ohsix wrote: | Porterwake, are you scared of her? Did she exhibit any alarming behavior after things ended? Did she move from another city to this apartment or within the same city?
If it was a normal ending of a relationship and all has been cool, I wouldn't worry about it. It's a little odd that she would move into the same apartments, but maybe she was impressed with your apartment and thought it wouldn't be a big deal if she moved there.
I think we need more details on how the relationship ended and probably pictures to give you an accurate response. |
The ending of the relationship was not good. She got fired from her job deliberately and moved back in with her mom in Green Bay. That is not the kind of woman I want so I broke up with her. She got needy and crazy and I told her to just move on and stop contacting me.
3 months later she shows up living in my apartment complex, where she knew I lived. |
Well, that's pretty creepy of her. I bet that was quite the stomach turning adrenaline rush when you saw her in your building the first time. |
When I saw her walk out of my apartment building and we met eyes, yes my heart and stomach dropped.
I then said "Can I help you?" She says "No." Then I ask, "When what are you doing here?" She then replied in a diva snotty way "I live here now."
I just walked into the building. |
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Faust Wakeboarder.Commie
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Posted: Oct 24, 2014 6:31 am Post subject: |
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Speaking from my own experience... When I was first dating my now fiancée, upper management told her to manage another location at 27th and north in Milwaukee (ghetto). She refused and was fired. She then had to move back in with her parents. If I would have left her at that time, I could easily see her becoming an unstable stalker as well. I think anyone could under the circumstances of job loss, moving, and relationship ending. So do I think you overreacted? Still can't say for sure, maybe
Anyway for what its worth now we live near the gulf in Florida, both have great jobs, about to get married, life is good. Sometimes sticking it out can turn out ok |
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