Need female advice?

gilby00 · Outlaw Joined: 15 Jun 2005 Posts: 216 City: Sparks

Ok I need some female perogative here, let me give some background.
My GF and I have been together for 3 yrs. She was married for 15 prior. she has two kids, and is gone every other weekend to see them, and gone early everyday and gets home at 8 at night, so we rarely get time alone. So she gets a job in reno, and 4 months later I get a transfer and we buy a house and start working towards a future together.
about 10 months ago all of a sudden she's like" I don't know what I want anymore" what the hell??? So I have her move out of the house and we go to counseling etc... But she's still not sure of what she wants, which I believe since she's never been single...... I've supported her thru the divorce and anything else both financially/emotionally. She's like" I have this great guy in front of me why can't I pull my head out of my butt."

So I finally got tired of waiting and ended it, but she's still messages me and we've slept together since i broke it off. So why can't she let go? and should I expect things to change? any advice is welcome. I'm trying to decide whether to sell the house and move.

b_girl · Posted: Sep 27, 2006 10:39 am Post subject:

This is a little delayed, I know... but sleeping with her after ending things with her will definitely make it harder for her to let go. If you don't want to be with her, don't sleep with her. Cut her off completely for a while, no contact at all. It's harsh, but it works. If you feel bad about doing that out of nowhere, maybe tell her first that you think it's best if you don't see/talk to one another for a while.

I've never been in quite as complex of a situation as that before though, so not sure what to say about the house and what-not.

ccameselle · Criminal Joined: 20 Sep 2005 Posts: 63 City: Miami

I though this website was related to water sports Smile

Now that I know how it works I will be posting here too for my female troubles Shocked

LOL

Just kidding.

ccameselle · Criminal Joined: 20 Sep 2005 Posts: 63 City: Miami

I though this website was related to water sports Smile

Now that I know how it works I will be posting here too for my female troubles Shocked

LOL

Just kidding.

Dragonlady8 · Black Widow Joined: 27 Aug 2004 Posts: 9198

arof · Posted: Oct 01, 2006 5:32 pm Post subject: Re: Need female advice?

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intotheflats · Posted: Oct 13, 2006 12:44 pm Post subject:

gilby00, As one of the "boys" that DLady spoke of that has been in a similar situation I suggest you run like hell. If she can't make up her mind about being with you, she never will.

As far as her moving on, who cares as long as YOU move on. If you can keep poking her without wanting to get back with her go for it. If she can't handle it than she shouldn't have "wondered" if she wanted to be you or not and she deserves to get screwed over (yes I am still a little sour Evil or Very Mad

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