What's Up With My Wife??

KYScrilla · Newbie Joined: 23 Jun 2005 Posts: 17 City: Atlanta

Ok ladies, a little help would be great here.

So my wife introduces me to our friend's boyfriend a few years ago. She wants me to be nice to him and make him feel accepted in our group of friends. We go out on his boat the first time I meet him, and we naturally hit it off. He's a genuinly cool guy, he's also a hard core wakeboarder. I have been a skier all my life (don't hold it against me), but this guy has gotten me hooked. Fast forward to today. I am picking up the sport really fast and am addicted. Now, my wife gives me crap for being into such a "juvenile" sport and says that I am an idiot for being interested in it. WTF? She introduces me to her friend's BF, wants me to be friends with him (he and I are now really close friends) and then gives me crap for finding a new hobby. Can I not win?

criswb · Soul Rider Joined: 09 Mar 2006 Posts: 310 City: Guayaquil

What she probably doesnt like is the fact that you want to spend your free time wakeboarding instead of with her. If i didnt like wakeboarding I would be mad at my boyfriend as well.
Get her to try the sport, and also use some of your free time to do things with her that she likes, that way she'll be more willing to do stuff with you that you like

tk1482 · Newbie Joined: 09 Jul 2006 Posts: 10 City: Oslo

Yep, like Criswb says!
You know when she asked you to make him feel accepted she probably didn't want you to spend every available minut with him. Laughing

She might feel a little left out when you have found a hobby of your one. Straighten up your balance (not on the board) and give the girl some attention.
-Tine

Aubs · Motorboat Queen Joined: 12 Jan 2003 Posts: 9167

the best thing to do is get her hooked on wakeboarding. she may think its juvenille, but its an absolute blast. women are kicking @$$ now-a-days and she should really check out some of the top female boarders for some inspiration

mskier01 · Criminal Joined: 28 Jun 2006 Posts: 87 City: Dorset

Even if you get her to try wakeboarding and she doesn't like it invite her on the boat. You do two things get a spotter and also you are including her in what you are doing. Then if I were you, if she spends a day out on the boat with you take her to a movie or something during the week HER choice.

She is probably just feeling left out, maybe all it will take is her on the boat not the movie. Just a thought.

NightAngel · Outlaw Joined: 01 Feb 2006 Posts: 219 City: Union Grove

Ditto on what everyone else has said. It is all about the time you spend with her. I hope you can get her hooked cause that will make a huge difference and I hardly thing that this is considered a Juvenille sport but thats just me I guess.

KYScrilla · Newbie Joined: 23 Jun 2005 Posts: 17 City: Atlanta

Thanks ladies. The problem is that she's already on the boat as much as I am (we're very close to this couple). She refuses to try to board, which is odd b/c her friend just started. I don't get it. I am anything but unattentive when it comes to her. I think she's just jealous, but what do I know.

mskier01 · Criminal Joined: 28 Jun 2006 Posts: 87 City: Dorset

Ok, this maybe a long shot but maybe she would try wakeboarding if you werent around. If she was out with her friend and they had another girl driving. I have found that sometimes when it comes to new sports/activities women tend to do better and are more apt to try if they are only around women when starting.

Then she wont feel pressured. I coach alpine skiing and use to coach college lacrosse and found in the skiing the girls tended to do better then the boys werent standing there watching them.

Now I dont know you or your gf so I can't say for sure. But that might be why she is so against trying it. She is afraid to fail infront of you. Maybe if her friend convinces her to go out she will try it. You know from one woman to another sort of thing, not the boys convincing her to try.

I could be way off but thats looking at it from another angle.

Hope you can get her out on the water. I am sure she will have a good time when all 4 of you can enjoy wakeboarding together.

ozwest · Outlaw Joined: 13 Jun 2006 Posts: 112

Maybe she misses you skiing. If you've been a skiier most of your life you must be good and perhaps she enjoyed watching you ski...kinda' the package deal when she met you?

Does she ski, tube, or do anything behind the boat?

I like mskier01's advice of having her try it with her other female friends. Of course sometimes there are some things people just don't want to try.

One big positive part is...she may think it juvenile now but the better you become at wakeboarding the more she most likely will take notice of you.

Hope things take a turn for the better.

H20orSnowLetsGo · Posted: Jul 12, 2006 7:15 pm Post subject:

Wakeboarding, juvenile?? Are you sure she's from this planet?
My dream would be to find an unmarried man who's a hardcore wakeboarder.

paolad · Newbie Joined: 06 Sep 2004 Posts: 38 City: San Diego

Well, maybe she being a stubbon waterskier. Waterskiers tend to be snobbish to wakeboarding. Just like skiers are to snowboarding. As a converted skier, I love knowing both but have definitely thrown out my skis and never looked back.

I think you should let her be and she will come around. The more you bug her to try the longer it will take for her to come around.

criswb · Soul Rider Joined: 09 Mar 2006 Posts: 310 City: Guayaquil

H20orSnowLetsGo, sorry but my boyfriends taken! Very Happy

You'll find your own wakeboard addict cutie! Just look for one with a nice boat! Laughing

b_girl · Posted: Jul 25, 2006 12:29 pm Post subject:

I agree with mskier01, maybe get her to just try it out the first couple of times with females only. It'll take a lot of the pressure to succeed off of her and she may find she enjoys it more. You mentioned that you're really close to the other couple, so maybe mention it to her friend and see if she'll help out a bit?

H20orSnowLetsGo, same here... My dream is to find a good looking single guy who's a hardcore wakeboarder (or snowboarder, or both!). Is that too much to ask?? Confused

HHI Dave · Posted: Jul 25, 2006 1:46 pm Post subject:

My girl was definitely happy when I got the boat, but was beginning to get a little "grumbly" about all the time, effort, and money I was putting into wakeboarding. She also was very reluctant to try it herself because she was both concerned about embarrassing herself and also worried about what the other people on the boat would think (yeah, I know, I know Rolling Eyes

) Anyway, the happy ending is that this weekend she finally tried it herself (see my "Chicks Rule" thread) and I think the tide is turning. Hang in there. Cool

Rhawn · Posted: Jul 26, 2006 7:33 am Post subject: Re: What's Up With My Wife??

criswb · Soul Rider Joined: 09 Mar 2006 Posts: 310 City: Guayaquil

jennrumel · Newbie Joined: 08 May 2006 Posts: 16 City: tampa

Lady Ortunas · Outlaw Joined: 09 Jul 2006 Posts: 109

*Contributes nothing to the discussion*

Did someone say, "hockey"?

Very Happy

aceofdimondz · Newbie Joined: 10 Jun 2005 Posts: 39

all you gotta do is bring her out on the lake and get her hooked as well!

Commodore · Ladies Man Joined: 20 Jun 2005 Posts: 11636

Have you asked her why she thinks it's juvenille?

I am sooooo glad my new lady friend likes wakeboarding. Mr. Green

Kazadhum · Newbie Joined: 11 Aug 2006 Posts: 1

listen mate you: a) leave your wife and do wakeboarding b) learn to deal with it SHE DOESNT LIKE WAKEBOARDING c) you stop wakeboarding and die sad.

and you ladies out there.... please accept us as human beeings we are not your personal entertainment-system. I don't know this guy but I know a lot of you, and I know even if we would spent 24hours a day on you it would be to few. WE NEED TIME WITHOUT GIRLS AROUND US.

But don't get me wrong I love girls Wink

(and sorry for my bad english it isnt my mother tongue)

cheers

bigwake77 · Newbie Joined: 16 Apr 2006 Posts: 47

Hey man I had the same problem with my girlfriend. She couldn't understand why I wanted to get up early on the weekends and go to the lake all the time in the summer. She would want to sleep till noon on days when the lakes were butter and we would fight because she coudn't understand why I wanted to take MY boat out since we just went last weekend. Needless to say she's now my ex-girlfriend. Now I know you're married, so my solution is a little extreme for your situation so try the jealousy approach on her. Start telling her how hot her friend looks when she's boarding, and how much of a turn on it would be for you if she'd try it. Yes I know i'm going to get flamed for this but 95% of women are jealous attention whores. And yes I understand that all the women here fall in that 5% who aren't.

bigwake77 · Newbie Joined: 16 Apr 2006 Posts: 47

oh and I'm unmarried and a wakeboarding addict for 10 years now

Justin 25 · Addict Joined: 29 Aug 2006 Posts: 797

Just tell her she needs to at least try it before she can give you a hard time about it. That will *hopefully* shut her up and make her go try it.

khill12 · Outlaw Joined: 29 Jul 2006 Posts: 109 City: Madison

If you can get her to just try it she would probably get hooked. She's probably worried that she's gonna embarass herself.

Tmac1 · Posted: Sep 05, 2006 10:35 am Post subject:

In marriage -- you have to pick your battles -- this is a battle I would choose to enter the ring -- these statements by your wife sound like some jealously and insecurity. Juvenile sport and your an idiot? Laughing

You need to decide how important it is. Give her some options:

-- Does she not want you to go out on the boat at all -- or would she prefer you just skip your turn (which is a ridiculous option). I am assuming she is getting out on the water with you (not riding though)and that's her decision. If she is not coming out -- and you are spending a lot of time out there without her -- then she has a case -- and you need to make some choices.

My guess is you haven't been married very long -- less than two years?

These arguments will shape your marriage for years to come! Smile

jpk · Outlaw Joined: 07 Aug 2005 Posts: 215 City: Redmond

Man, you just might have hit the tip of the iceberg. This lady sounds deranged, and possibly dangerous. I say dump her and hit the water with your wakeboarding buddy to find someone sane to ride in the boat with you.

shazie · Criminal Joined: 17 May 2006 Posts: 67

If she doesnt want to ride, then dont let her, unless there is a phobia or something. Like my husband, he is trying to get me to do golf, but I dont enjoy it, and I refuse to hit the greens. Sometimes I would accompany him to the practice grounds and while I enjoy my book and coffee. The more he pushes me, the more I want to stay away from it.

On the other hand, sometime he comes out and sit on the boat with me just to be part of the sport - spectator..

Since you have tried all you can already. Please put it to rest. Its not a woman/ wife issue, it is a normal human preference. Who knows, one day she will come to you and says she wants to participate. Just like my children.. The other day they say no, now they say yes. Everyone has their preference.

lostsparrow · Posted: Feb 07, 2007 11:09 pm Post subject:

Ya know what's weird? In the ladies forum (i was really bored) people actually discuss the topic at hand. The other forums...someone asks a question....1 person answers....50 people flame that one person for being slightly off with the answer.

Anyways...do what i did....throw her in the lake with a wakeboard,ski vest, and rope, and tell her she's not getting back in the boat till she tries it. Very Happy

cadence_131 · Outlaw Joined: 27 Jul 2006 Posts: 136 City: Miami

whoaa blast from the past here.

I wonder how he ended up in his dilema here... poor guy (And this is coming from a girl)

cwbxwakex939 · Newbie Joined: 10 Feb 2007 Posts: 17 City: plainfield

like they said she is probably just feeling left out
tell her how much fun it caan be and if she doesnt buy it then have try it for herself

Spack911 · Newbie Joined: 15 Jan 2007 Posts: 5 City: San Antonio

Remember this......You can be Happy, or you can be right. You can never be both. That is the secret to a happy Marriage. Laughing

Dave88LX · Criminal Joined: 16 Jul 2006 Posts: 64 City: Pasadena

I think you're right about that. I'm always right, but she doesn't like that. Laughing

fuel4me · Newbie Joined: 10 Aug 2006 Posts: 38 City: lancaster

has this thread really been goin on for a year? Rolling Eyes

KYScrilla · Newbie Joined: 23 Jun 2005 Posts: 17 City: Atlanta

No doubt....and I started it! Totally forgot about it. Good news is that the wife does want to try and ride. It took a girls day out on the boat to get her to think about it...but hey, whatever works.

I think I can effectively put this thread to bed. Thanks for all the advice.