a little help ladies.

WaKevin · Posted: Oct 01, 2003 7:51 pm Post subject: a little help ladies.

I was just wondering what are some things a guy shouldnt and what he should do on a date. i know stuff like not talking about yourself and stuff like that. May you ladies could give some small detials that make a difference. thanks
Kevin

leslisa · Posted: Oct 02, 2003 9:53 am Post subject:

Have you heard that song, "Hold on loosely, but don't let go". I know when I was dating, I hated guys who smothered me and/or were really possessive. My daughter (18 tomorrow) feels the same way. She's broken up with more than one guy because of similar.

Be nice, smile, be honest (I always hated guys who were yes men) but not beligerent. I mean, alot of guys I broke up with would tell me the truth, but they could have been a lot less know-it-all about it. I stress again, be considerate, but don't smother her.

Oh, and some girls don't like it, but if a guy didn't open my door or if he let a door smack me in the face on the first date he was so out. I've noticed my daughter seems to value this as much as I do. Common courtesy without being obtrusive. Oh and if she messes up her words or something but you still know what she meant don't bring attention to it. On more than one date, when some guy would correct me on something stupid or contradict my every word, he was out too.

This is from my daughter (we were actually discussing similar a few weeks back, what she did and did not like). Offer to pay for everything, but if she wants to go Dutch, back off. My daughter likes paying her own way at least on the first date. I don't know how old you are, but if the girl says, "I'd like you to meet my parents", don't be an a$$ about it, just do it. It takes like 5 minutes tops usually and she won't have to get flack later from the parents (like me Very Happy

) about him not coming in, is something wrong, what's he worried about, etc.

Bottom line, respect her and she'll respect you back.

(I've been with my hubby for 13 or 14 years now, but I think the basics are still the same and I'm still happy with him).

Have a good time.

Lisa

riverfreak · Posted: Oct 02, 2003 10:10 am Post subject:

no way would I ever pay for my food/things on a date? God, things are changing soooo much - my little sister asked for gas money for her friend the other day so they could ride around? I don't remember being asked to ride around and have to pitch in on gas money for the car? I'm seriously getting old.

silver girl · Soul Rider Joined: 16 Jan 2003 Posts: 496 City: England

just be yourself n junk like that
dont smother her but dont play it to kool either

DJew Jake · Posted: Oct 02, 2003 11:27 am Post subject:

Lesila, i think you just confused him more Wink

Man just be yerself. If she doesnt like you shuoldnt act like someone your not.

leslisa · Posted: Oct 03, 2003 5:33 am Post subject:

Goodness, I hope not. If he remembers to respect her and her opinions, everything else should come pretty easily, like the backing off if she wants to pay. That's realizing that she knows her own mind and respecting her for it.

Being who he is is important, that's part of the honesty quotient.

Most of the stuff I listed is common sense and he'll probably do it anyway (like opening doors and not suffocating her), but if he sees anything he does all the time, then he can try to remember to curb that one thing.

Anyway, whatever you do, let us know if you had a good time Very Happy

Lisa

WetChick19 · Posted: Oct 20, 2003 4:34 pm Post subject:

its actually really simple, i know this sounds like common sense but here it is : don't be a cocky jerk. now i know that sounds harsh but seriously girls looooove it if a guy is just nice and cool, listen when she talks and carry on conversation, there's nothing worse than when a guy expects the girl to keep the conversation going all night, and just be curtious, open doors and stuff like that. Above all just play it cool and be natural, girls can tell if you're not being yourself, its like a 6th sense. Just have fun!

WaKevin · Posted: Oct 20, 2003 5:12 pm Post subject:

thanks for all the insider information ladies hopefully i will get to use some of this new infor pretty soon......the thing is i new a lot of this stuff before like a lot of you said comman sense. thanks agian
Kevin